Assurance for When Your Days Run Long and Your Optimism Runs Short

Hello there,

When I started this blog, I always had the intention of not boxing it into a beauty blog. I wanted The Lip Glossy to be an accurate reflection of me, in my entirety.

Sure, I love beauty, fashion and the like, but I also love a good novel, steaming cups of tea and hot cocoa in winter, a cold glass of iced tea in the spring, summer and fall and most of all reflection.

I think we can sometimes underestimate the power of looking back on a situation and reviewing how we felt, thought, and handled it. It helps us grow and become better people. That can never be a bad thing.

Sometimes, we need reflection the most when we’re in the midst of change. Although change can be for your growth and benefit, it can be hard to adjust and learn the new things required. I’m experiencing this right now in multiple areas of my life. It’s scary but I’m also hopeful concerning all the great things it can bring about if I continue to work hard. The same can be true for you.

So, what’s my plan for adjusting, flourishing and excelling? Here’s what I plan to do:

  • Get my bearings–don’t take forever to do this, but don’t rush myself either
  • Give myself a break: I’m human and I’m still rather young, there is a lot of learn and all I need to do is being willing to learn. Mantra: I do not have to have all the answers
  • Put my best effort forward: do my best and leave the rest for my next chance
  • Check my attitude and delivery: be mindful of how I am interacting and reacting to others. Most of all, be kind whenever possible. Every time.
  • Take things one step/one task at a time
  • Employ effective time management skills
  • BREATHE. Go about the day one breathe at a time.

We can do it glossies!

I hope by sharing my experiences and thoughts that it will help each of you.

I’ll be back tomorrow to chat about product–promise. After all, products can help us feel pampered and renewed and that’s key to staying on track as well.

Appreciate you for reading,

xo, Layla

I’m Over This Year…So I’m Planning for the New One

To be fair, this year has been pretty decent to me, if for no other reason then it brought me my own apartment: space to breathe and build a life for myself.  That being said, I’m over 2013–like severely over it. Over it the way you’re over a first date where the guy expects you to pay the whole tab over it. So instead of sulking until 11:59 pm on December 31, I decided to do something: I made one of my trusty lists. (You know you love a good list too ;)

I made resolutions for the first time in my life. I’m not married to it. They’re things I’d love to focus more on and do, but if I don’t then I won’t beat myself up (that’s actually resolution #10–cut myself some slack)

Here’s my full list:

  1. Exercise more
  2. Take more vitamins
  3. Burn more candles
  4. Wear lipstick EVERY DAY
  5. Kiss more
  6. Laugh more
  7. Get outside: visit places, see things
  8. Wear dresses
  9. Cut out soda completely, almost replace with more water
  10. Cut myself some slack
  11. Travel
  12. Pay down debt, save more money

Notice a theme? MORE. Everything is about doing things more often and taking small, safe chances for me in 2014. Baby steps.

In case you’re wondering, I’m most excited about #3, #4, and #5–mostly #4 LOL

Will you make any resolutions for 2014?

Share them with me in the comments below? I’d love to see what you all want to accomplish, etc. next year. Either way, cheers to it being our best year yet!

xo, Layla

101 Ways To Save Money Right Now: Easy Tips Every Girl Should Know

This is the ultimate BFF style advice. I see more than a few tips I will use. What about you?

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When it comes to money, we all could use a little more. But, it’s a grim reality that between paying rent and bills, socializing, eating, dressing, downloading, and pretty much everything else we do, saving isn’t exactly an easy feat for most young women. Which is exactly why we decided to compile a handy list filled with 101 ways to save money today—without drastically altering the lifestyle you’re used to.

MORE: 101 Fashion Tips and Tricks Every Girl Should Know

While it’s key to know how to stick to strict budget and manage your long-term finances, it’s also key to know easy tips and tricks to save a little immediate cash if you’re feeling short, if you’re looking to splurge on a particular item down the line, or if you’re simply seeking peace of financial mind.

Read on for 101 ways to save money right now, and let us know which tricks you…

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Healthy Living: Mighty Leaf Organic Teas

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Why yes, yes you are. Unfortunately, for me that means I’m part ginger-ale (Schweppes, ALWAYS. Don’t play) mixed with equal parts espresso and Jamaican Kola Champagne. Obviously my liquid diet needs a bit of work, but I wasn’t in any rush to make any drastic adjustments just yet, I mean, COME ON, it’s not quite time for resolutions.

Enter my new reality: a prescription regimen that includes a drug that heightens the effects of even the smallest amount of caffeine. Seriously. Sometimes I’d be up until 4am in the morning, this drug is no joke. My caffeine habit is coming to a screeching halt. I’m a little bitter about it, I won’t lie. I don’t like to drink tea unless it’s in the form of a Tea Latte. Tea isn’t particularly as soothing as taking that first sip of espresso mixed with foam. It doesn’t relax my muscles like a soy caramel macchiato. I digress. My world is changing and it must happen. I must cooperate to be healthy. It’s almost a disguised blessing–ALMOST.

Once again, my Birchbox comes to the rescue! In my November box, among some other nifty treats, I received a sample pack of three (3) Mighty Leaf Organic Teas. While only one of those offerings was caffeine free, it was enough to get me thinking that drinking more tea wouldn’t be so bad after all. I tried the Organic African Nectar blend and was pleasantly surprised at how balanced it was. I expected it to be overwhelmingly fruity, which it certainly was not. It was a mild, unassuming blend that was absolutely delicious. I’m definitely going to purchase a full box of this blend and happily sip my bitter unwillingness to let go of the comfort that is a cup of coffee dissipate.

If you are what you drink, then I need to be water and tea with a healthy sprinkling of a fresh pressed green juice and let the benefits of giving my body adequate and balanced hydration take over. I know the difference it can make. But it’s certainly a commitment. A commitment I have to make and follow through on.

For more information on Mighty Leaf Organic Teas, visit their website at http://www.mightyleaf.com

Wish me luck!

Cheers!!

xo, Layla

I <3 My…alice + olivia for Starbucks Designer Double Wall Ceramic Tumbler

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Hi, my name is Layla and I’m addicted to all things coffee (and Starbucks naturally)…I’m 0 days sober and proud of it.

All things considered, I feel I have my addiction under (relative?) control. I’m sure there are numerous friends who would disagree, but look at the progress that I’ve made: only 2 years ago, I lived on about 16 shots of espresso in some way or form…usually in a latte or cappuccino. Sometimes straight if I was desperate and hating the ENTIRE world.

Fast forward to now: I drink a lot more (caffeinated) tea and Signature Espresso Drinks at Starbucks are decadent treats and moments of self soothing. You can just self soothe in anything, right? RIGHT. So what you do is get yourself an awesome friend, whose company you never tire of and get him or her to sort of, kinda, force you to buy it by saying how much it suits you.

This latest designer collaboration with Starbucks is a perfect match for me. I’ll wear black every moment that I can and love a good “classic with a twist and a little glam” design.

It’s one of my newest inspirations for a myriad of things: LG posts, home décor and design, even wardrobe makeover ideas.

I’ll sip to that.

NY Times: Mascara Ads Draw Criticism

NY Times: Mascara Ads Draw Criticism

It’s confession time ladies (and gents.)  We’ve all seen them. You know of the trickery I speak about. Mascara ads. 

God love them, or curse them all of eternal damnation, we give them the intense perusal befitting of forensic science, looking for that slight difference that justifies yet another mascara purchase in less a month.  (Have I given myself completely away yet?)

Quite a few friends call me a mascara whore. I’m not ashamed, I embrace it. I keep a different mascara in rotation for every day and purchase any and all new formulas within my reach. I love the way they can transform an eye, or your whole face depending on the formula and brush.  Mascara is that one little secret that makes you look as though you’ve slept for 10 hours when really you were up all night doing heavens knows what. So, what’s my gripe right?  The false advertising that is the “styled with lash inserts” variety.  Whenever I see a new ad for a mascara launch, I’m instantly excited about the new look(s) I can achieve, only to be hampered with the fine print reminding me that it’s all a fairy tale and I won’t instantly transform into the gorgeous, near perfect model with flashing, radiant eyes looking up at me, beseeching me to spend my hard earned money. 

As beauty junkies, we’re a savvy bunch, which only makes the “lash insert” or “photo shopped” fine print even more insulting. Of course we all hope to look like our favorite super model, but we know that short of (superb) plastic surgery that will never happen. We do look to our beauty products, however, to help us achieve an outward version of our best selves–to mirror how we feel about ourselves internally. 

What a shame that these beauty giants don’t give us credit.  And what a lazy lot for not making their products to live up to claims without the visual trickery. Not to mention that it’s not plain stupid. 

I digress. I must, because I will buy mascara from now until eternity. 

What about you? How do mascara ads styled with lash inserts, etc make you feel? Tell me in the comments.

Layla 

NY Times Article: A College Degree Within Reach, Then Came The Medical Bills

NY Times Article: A College Degree Within Reach, Then Came The Medical Bills

I love reading the NY Times.  I get news, superbly written personal interest pieces and finish reading feeling more intelligent and less afraid of the “unknown.”

I’ll read the Times anyway that I can get it–print, online, mobile–it doesn’t matter.  Today was no exception.  I read this article and immediately felt a connection with the young woman who is the focus of the story.  (To view the article, click on the post header)

I too had emergency surgery only last year and am still paying off medical bills all while trying to put money together for a much desired college education.  It’s hard no doubt, but I’m reminded of a quote from one of my favorite shows, The West Wing.  Toby and Josh were speaking to a father in a bar while on a campaign tour stop.  He was thinking hard about his college tuition ordeal.  His daughter had just visited a school and was in love with it.  He on the other hand could only think of how hard it would be to pay for her dream school.  He tells Toby and Josh that (paraphrased) “it should be a little hard. But it shouldn’t be so hard for good, honest working people that it becomes impossible.”  I completely agree.

This woman’s story is a reminder that persistence, honesty and perseverance coupled with the goodness of some people who are still (thankfully) moving about in the world means the “impossible” will always be possible after all.  There is no “I can’t,” only “how will I?”

Mountains are made to climb.  Sometimes not on our own, but we climb them nonetheless.

What mountains are you climbing? Are there any mountains that you stopped climbing mid-way and want to take up climbing again?

Let’s all share in the comments.

Until next time.

With thanks and gratitude for your support,

Layla